Tom explains that things dont go the way we want them to, because we believe that things should go a certain way. We have made deep set assumptions about how things 'should' go, based on conditioning (by family, society, culture age etc) and that is for us to question. The moment we judge the situation we are in, we give birth to the problem, by having the problem with what is in the first place. It is a resistance to what is. By questioning 'why is this actually a problem?' or 'what assumption have I made here?' we can drop deeper into the Now of just how everything is unfolding. Stepping outside of the mind which created the problem, and into curiosity of the Now, is a huge leap towards freedom and peace.