Change seems to be so hard because we become heavily identified with the idea of who we are. The idea of 'who I am' is a series of thoughts which loop, or we accept and believe. We follow around, or identify with recurring thoughts and continually accept the thoughts which are being offered up by the mind. Tom shares here that we simply don't need to identify with these thoughts. We can allow the thought to be there, and pass through us. It is in fact the resistance to the thought that creates the identification with it. When we stop continually engaging with these thoughts, they begin to fall away, and not continually turn up. When we stop resisting what is occurring, and accept that thoughts can appear and disappear if we don't grasp onto them, then we can continue to be in the Now, and the idea of change becomes an acceptance of the flow of Life.